Go get the arthrogram or MRI and remove all doubt. It never commits you to anything, just lets you know where you stand. My orthopod, even after we looked at the images together, was not going to do anything until I said "I wnat to be 100%, let's do it."
Both times my shoulder had a lot of conflict, constant swelling if I tried to do anything big with it. It just really sucks for the first week post-op.
Ditto what GT said, at least go get evaluated and see what they say. I had my right shoulder pretty much rebuilt at age 41 (I'm 53 now), 2/3 of the rotor cuff torn away from the bone. On a clock face the tear was from 8 o'clock around to 4 o'clock, heinous slalom crash. At first they didn't catch it, just sent me to PT which for the first 3 - 4 weeks was actually helping. However there were some things I just couldn't do and the PT started testing me to see what the deal was. She was the one who caught how serious my problem was. Went back to the orthopod, sent me for a dye enhanced MRI which showed the damage. Surgeon said when he got into the shoulder it was way worse than he expected. Did 8 months of PT which TOTALLY SUCKED; however I would do it all again in a heartbeat if I had to. The end result hs been well worth it (really easy to say that once you're past it).
To this day I still work hard on my shoulders trying to improve their strength and flexibility. My right shoulder creaks and pops but it works great, for which I'm eternally grateful. If you need it fixed don't screw around, get it done and put it behind you. It sucks to go through but you'll be extremely glad you did. If it's keeping you awake at night it's time to get it checked out.
On another note. You guys whining about getting old is killing me. What are you now Bill, 35?? I'm a better skier now than when I was younger, even considering the bad shoulder, the advancing age, screwed up knees, etc etc. Age has some advantages, learning patience being one of them. Of course patience IS a relative term... Besides, that's what God made ibuprophen for.

I can still do pretty much everything I could do at age 35. Just takes a LOT longer to heal up in between. And lots of anti-inflamatories.
Sorry guys, couldn't resist the cheap shot. Us old guys don't get to gloat too much.
Ed